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Is To All the Boys I've Loved Before OK for Kids?

ComedyRomance
13+
PG-13⭐ 7.0 / 102018 · 1h 40m
Susan Johnson

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What's In It

Based on the actual screenplay
🗡️Violence
Very Mild▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
3
Cartoon / Comedic
0
Action & Peril
0
Injuries & Death Shown
0
Graphic & Disturbing
  • Lara Jean nearly backs her car into Peter's in a parking lot — no injury, played for comedic awkwardness.
  • Peter threatens to 'kick asses' of students spreading rumors about Lara Jean, but no physical fight occurs.
  • Lara Jean playfully hits her younger sister Kitty with a pillow after discovering she mailed the letters — entirely comedic, no real aggression.
  • No weapons appear anywhere in the film, and no characters are injured or die.
  • Overall tone is light and comedic with zero real-world threat or danger.
💬Language
Mild▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
4
Mild Words
(damn, hell)
8
Moderate
(ass, b**ch)
0
Strong
(sh*t)
0
Extreme
(f**k)
  • Mild words: 'butt' (1), 'pee' (3) — casual, childish language.
  • Moderate words: 's**t' (1), 'da**' (1), 'd**k' (1), 'bulls**t' (1), 'psycho' (1), 'sluts' (1), and 'a**' (2), used in emotional or gossip-driven dialogue.
  • No f-words, c-words, or slurs of any kind are used in the film.
  • Language is infrequent and mostly clustered around dramatic confrontations (like rumor-spreading at school) rather than casual conversation.
👻Scary Scenes
Mild▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
2
Mildly Tense
1
Startling Moments
0
Genuinely Scary
0
Deeply Disturbing
  • Lara Jean faints and collapses at school, which is tense and sudden but quickly resolved with no lasting harm.
  • A private intimate video filmed in a hot tub leaks publicly online, which is startling and causes real embarrassment and social fallout for Lara Jean.
  • Gen confronts Lara Jean about a past kiss and jealousy, creating a tense emotional argument rather than physical danger.
  • There is no villain, monster, or horror imagery — all tense moments are emotional/social rather than physically frightening.
  • Scary or tense moments resolve through conversation and reconciliation rather than danger being 'defeated.'
💕Romance
Extreme▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
1
Crushes & Holding Hands
4
Kissing & Dating
2
Suggestive
1
Sexual Content
  • Lara Jean writes a secret love letter to Josh while he is dating her sister Margot — an unrequited crush, nothing physical.
  • Peter and Lara Jean kiss multiple times, including a middle-school spin-the-bottle kiss, repeated kisses during their fake relationship, a kiss in a field where they confess real feelings, and further kisses once the relationship becomes genuine.
  • A hot tub scene has Peter and Lara Jean alone together, described as suggestive, and this same hot tub moment is secretly filmed and leaked online, described in the script as sexual content though nothing explicit is shown on screen.
  • Lara Jean's father gives her condoms before a ski trip, a suggestive but responsible parenting moment played for light comedy.
  • No nudity or explicit sexual acts are depicted — romantic content is largely kissing and emotional confession, with the leaked video being implied rather than shown.
🍺Substances
Mild▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
3
Mentioned in Passing
2
Shown Casually
0
Featured Prominently
0
Glorified or Abused
  • Characters drink beer casually at a high school party — shown briefly and not glorified.
  • Kombucha is mentioned in a joking reference to its digestive properties.
  • Margot mentions drinking at bars in Scotland, where the legal age is 18 — a passing reference, not shown.
  • An EDM concert is referenced where a friend may have used substances, but this is only mentioned, not depicted.
  • A 'nitrous oxide scandal' involving the Debate Society is mentioned casually as a joke, not shown on screen.
⚡Stimulation
Moderate▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
0
Gently Engaging
3
Exciting
1
Intense
0
Overwhelming
  • Lara Jean's transformation from invisible wallflower to part of the popular group is upbeat and energizing rather than overwhelming.
  • Party scenes include music, dancing, and social excitement typical of teen social gatherings.
  • The ski trip sequences carry more intensity, combining romantic tension with confrontations between characters.
  • School cafeteria scenes show shifting social dynamics with moderate emotional energy.
  • Pacing overall is typical rom-com speed — comfortable for sensory-sensitive teens, though the ski trip section is a bit more intense emotionally.
To All the Boys I've Loved Before — Heads Up for Parents

Despite the light rom-com tone, the plot's central crisis is a leaked intimate hot tub video that spreads around Lara Jean's school, causing public humiliation — a heavier topic than the film's poster and marketing suggest.

About To All the Boys I've Loved Before

Lara Jean Covey's secret love letters accidentally get mailed to her past crushes, forcing her into a fake relationship with popular boy Peter Kavinsky to save face with one recipient. What starts as a contract romance to make his ex-girlfriend jealous slowly turns into real feelings, set against a backdrop of sisterhood, grief over their late mother, and high school social drama. It's a lighthearted teen rom-com with some mature social fallout, including a leaked intimate video that causes real embarrassment for the main character.

👨‍👧
Best watched together
For viewers ages 13-14, the leaked intimate video plotline and moderate language like 'sluts' and 'bullshit' are worth watching together so parents can discuss digital privacy and healthy relationship communication with their teen.

Family Takeaways from To All the Boys I've Loved Before

What it gets right

  • ✓The film shows a healthy father-daughter relationship, including the theater scene where Lara Jean and her dad bond over memories of her late mother.
  • ✓It models sisters resolving conflict honestly, as Margot forgives Kitty and the sisters commit to no more secrets.

To All the Boys I've Loved Before Cultural & Values Guide

Cultural & Values Guide

Values & Themes
●Traditional family values

The entire story centers on Lara Jean's close-knit family relationship with her father and sisters after their mother's death. Family loyalty, protection, and unconditional love drive every major plot point and character decision.

Cast:Lana CondorNoah CentineoIsrael BroussardJanel ParrishAnna Cathcart

Is To All the Boys I've Loved Before Appropriate for Your Child's Age?

✗Age 5: Not recommended for 5-year-olds
✗Age 8: Not recommended for 8-year-olds
✗Age 10: Not recommended for 10-year-olds
✗Age 12: Not recommended for 12-year-olds
✓Age 13: Generally appropriate for 13-year-olds
✓Age 15: Generally appropriate for 15-year-olds
✓Age 17: Generally appropriate for 17-year-olds

Individual children may vary — use your judgment.

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