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Is The Lost Daughter OK for Kids?

Drama
17+
R⭐ 6.7 / 102021 · 2h 2m
Maggie Gyllenhaal

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United States

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What's In It

Based on the actual screenplay
🗡️Violence
Moderate▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
1
Cartoon / Comedic
3
Action & Peril
1
Injuries & Death Shown
0
Graphic & Disturbing
  • Leda sustains a pine cone injury on her back from the beach path, mentioned and later treated.
  • In a flashback, young Leda hits Bianca out of frustration during a stressful moment of caregiving and work.
  • Glass shatters during a tense family confrontation, and Joe becomes physically aggressive toward young Leda with objects clattering during an argument.
  • Young men in a theater make crude verbal threats about violence, adding a tense but non-graphic moment.
  • No weapons are used and no one is killed on screen; violence is emotional and domestic rather than graphic or action-oriented.
💬Language
Extreme▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
0
Mild Words
(damn, hell)
7
Moderate
(ass, b**ch)
15
Strong
(sh*t)
51
Extreme
(f**k)
  • Extreme profanity is frequent: 'f**k/f**king' is used 47 times and 'c**t' is used 4 times.
  • Strong language includes 's**t' (12 times) and 'a**hole/arsehole' (3 times).
  • Moderate language includes 'da**' (2 times) and 'b**ch' (5 times).
  • The sheer volume and harshness of language, especially the repeated use of the c-word, makes this inappropriate for children and most teens.
👻Scary Scenes
Extreme▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
2
Mildly Tense
1
Startling Moments
0
Genuinely Scary
2
Deeply Disturbing
  • A startling sequence occurs when Elena goes missing on the beach and multiple people frantically search and call her name.
  • Young Leda becomes dizzy and disoriented after a tense confrontation with Joe, creating an uneasy, tense mood.
  • A deeply disturbing emotional moment occurs when Nina reveals she deliberately took Elena's doll, and Leda admits to being 'an unnatural mother.'
  • An aggressive, tense confrontation at a movie theater involves disruptive young men making threats.
  • The reveal that Leda abandoned her daughters for three years is disturbing not through imagery but through emotional weight and implication.
💕Romance
Extreme▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
0
Crushes & Holding Hands
1
Kissing & Dating
3
Suggestive
2
Sexual Content
  • Leda and Will share a dinner with developing flirtation, described as suggestive rather than explicit.
  • An implied sexual encounter between young Leda and a man includes heavy breathing and physical intimacy suggested but not shown explicitly.
  • Cole tells Leda he wants to go to bed with her during a dinner event, and Will asks to borrow Leda's apartment for intimate time with Nina.
  • An intimate scene between young Leda and Hardy includes suggestive dialogue in Italian and English.
  • Nina and Leda share an emotionally charged kissing encounter in the apartment, blending romantic and psychological tension.
🍺Substances
Mild▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
1
Mentioned in Passing
4
Shown Casually
0
Featured Prominently
0
Glorified or Abused
  • Leda orders wine and champagne at various points throughout the film, shown casually in social settings.
  • Lyle and Leda drink wine together over an octopus dinner, depicted as a normal adult social activity.
  • Martha is given elderberry medicine for a cold, a brief mentioned use of medicine rather than recreational substance use.
  • Characters consume alcohol at social gatherings and Lyle mentions smoking cigarettes; none of this is glorified or a focus of the plot.
⚡Stimulation
Extreme▼
Moments in the script, mildest → most intense
0
Gently Engaging
1
Exciting
3
Intense
1
Overwhelming
  • An intense storm sequence features rain, thunder, blowing umbrellas, and crowded panic in a cafe.
  • The beach search for missing Elena is intense, with multiple people calling out over crashing waves.
  • Young Leda's fragmented memories of motherhood are overwhelming, overlapping with the cries of her daughters in a disorienting montage.
  • A confrontation between Joe and young Leda is intense, with objects clattering and an emotional breakdown.
  • An exciting but calmer scene shows Leda receiving academic recognition in front of influential scholars, offering a break from the tension elsewhere.
The Lost Daughter — Heads Up for Parents

Despite being a quiet character drama, parents should be aware the film contains extremely frequent strong profanity (47 f-words, 4 uses of 'c**t') and an unflinching reveal that Leda abandoned her young daughters for three years — content far heavier than the film's calm surface suggests.

About The Lost Daughter

The Lost Daughter follows Leda, a middle-aged academic on a solo Greek vacation, whose encounter with a young mother and her daughter triggers vivid memories of her own turbulent early motherhood, including a period when she abandoned her two young daughters for three years. It's a psychologically intense character study about ambivalence toward motherhood, guilt, and self-realization, told with raw emotional honesty rather than plot-driven action.

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Watch with your child
The heavy themes of maternal abandonment, the disturbing confrontation where Leda calls herself 'an unnatural mother,' and extreme language make this appropriate only for older teens (17+) watching with a parent present to discuss the complex emotional content.

Family Takeaways from The Lost Daughter

What it gets right

  • ✓The film portrays motherhood honestly and without judgment, including the exhaustion and ambivalence shown in Young Leda's fragmented memories of caregiving.
  • ✓It shows the value of empathy between women navigating similar struggles, as when adult Leda listens empathetically to Nina's struggles as a young mother.

The Lost Daughter Cultural & Values Guide

Cultural & Values Guide

Values & Themes
●Traditional family values

The film centers on Leda's profound guilt and regret over abandoning her young daughters, exploring the complex tensions between motherhood, personal fulfillment, and family duty. Her memories of struggling with maternal expectations and the lasting impact of her choices form the emotional core of the story.

Cast:Olivia ColmanJessie BuckleyDakota JohnsonEd HarrisPaul Mescal

Is The Lost Daughter Appropriate for Your Child's Age?

✗Age 5: Not recommended for 5-year-olds
✗Age 8: Not recommended for 8-year-olds
✗Age 10: Not recommended for 10-year-olds
✗Age 12: Not recommended for 12-year-olds
✗Age 13: Not recommended for 13-year-olds
✗Age 15: Not recommended for 15-year-olds
✓Age 17: Generally appropriate for 17-year-olds

Individual children may vary — use your judgment.

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